How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like you...

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

1.) " Do this and you will be welcome anywhere." 

2.) "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."   

3.) "Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering." 

~ This rule is trying to tell us that we have to be the ones to make the move and start to get to know people. We have to be interested in what they have to say. We also have to be interested in their feelings. A very effective way to make friends if by caring and worrying about their feelings. For example, if to see someone who if feeling down or looks sad you can go up to them and ask them what's wrong. You can also ask them if there is any way you can help. That will make the other person feel like you care about them and that will give you a big step into your friendship with that other person. Another thing this rule is trying to tell us is that we should ask the other person questions such as what their favorite movie is. Another question you can ask is what is the thing that they like doing the most. I'm pretty sure that person will enjoy talking about those things.  

I will apply this rule by asking new people questions that they would enjoy answering such as what is their hobby or what is their favorite sport. I will become more interested in others so I can make more friends.

 Rule 2: Smile

1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

~ This rule is trying to tell us that when you smile it say so many things. With just one smile you can tell so many things from a person. You don't have to say anything when something you appreciate happens you can just smile. That smile will let people know you appreciate it or liked it. There should be no reason for you to smile. There are many things that can bring a smile to your face. Yes, there are hard times. We all have hard times. It is up to you to get yourself out from there and smile. A smile may mean a lot to someone. It should mean a lot to you too. 

I will apply this by smiling through 

the harsh times I have. I will make 

others smile because it means a 

lot to me. 

Rule 3: Remember names

1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

~ This rule is trying to tell us that if we remember people's names it helps us make them our friend. For example, if there is a new student in your class and if you learn their name they will feel more comfortable talking to you. I know this because my friends have told me and I have experienced it. Knowing someones name makes you closer to them. It makes a better connection. It doesn't just make you seem cool because you know their name but it will make you feel going to know someones name which can become your friend. It will familiarize you with them. It will make them feel good. It will make them feel like they really are your friend. Remember to always choose the right.  

I will apply this by asking people their 

names and remembering them to ensure they know I want them to be my friend.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

1) " If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener." 

2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems. 

This rule is trying to tell us that we should listen to what others have to say. We have to be opened minded. We should not judge the person for what they say. We should also tell others to talk about their problems if they are going through any. That will help them relief some of that stress. There are a lot of people who do not open up now in days. They are not aware of how bad it is to them to keep those problems within them. They can also talk about the good things happening. It will make them even happier to talk about the good things going on. You will encourage them to speak their mind. 

   

I will apply this by listening to what others have to say and keep an open mind to understand what they are going through. 

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

1)"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
This rule is trying to tell us to talk about other interest which helps them realize that you care. For example, if you ask a person about the soccer game since they really love soccer, they will enjoy talking about it. When you talk about what you like with others you really enjoy that time spent. Some people have it hard to find others interest. Not everyone speaks their mind and tell others. You can find simple things that they like and make a conversation out of it. It doesn't necessarily have to do with something big or important. A nice and simple conversation can make someones day. It does not really have to be important. It just takes a little effort. 

    

I will apply this by talking to others and bringing up what they really are interested in. 

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.

1)"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

~This rule is trying to tell us to make others feel like they mean something. There are so many things one can do to make another person feel important. For example, you can ask them how their day is going so far or how it's been. That can make a person feel like they mean something to you. That they are important to you. When you make someone feel important they start getting closer to you. That can result into friendship. There are some people who are convinced that they are not important so it might take a little more effort with them. You don't have to do something big. It can be something really simple for them to realize they are important.  

I will apply this by asking others how they are doing and ask if there is anything I can do to help because I don't want them to be sad or worried. 


Final Reflection: "The Six ways to Make People Like You" make me realize a lot of things. Some of these things I Actually do but some I didn't do before. These six ways are not hard to do. It is pretty simple you just have to put in a little effort to make it work. There will be a bigger chance of you making friend if you do these six ways. I will apply these six ways the best I can and make new friends. I am pretty sure there will be grate results and great friendships.